MOTHERHOOD

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Love is Love is Love. It’s 2019, and when Colette came home with her “Daddy Daughter’s dance” invitation all the feelings came up. For one, I think we need to get rid of the gender parent focused activities and two I think the whole daddy daughter date notion is just not for my family. You are a child and not dating, and definitely not dating someone in your family! We’re raising Colette to be a force all on her own, whoever she dates is going to have to deal with her not her dad.


So fast forward to last night! I took Colette to her dance and am so happy I did. I was the only mom there to enjoy the dad air guitar competition and notice there were lots of girls missing from Colette’s class and I couldn’t stop thinking of them and how they (or their families) thought they couldn’t attend. I hope to be on the planning committee next year so that the boys and girls at her school can bring one person they love (no matter what gender) as their chaperone to the dance.

I wore what I thought would be a gender bending outfit. I wore my favorite blazer and favorite fake leather leggings. These leggings are the best because they’re only faux leather in the front leaving your behind smooth (and dimples to themselves). Leggings here and Blazer here.

While we’re on the topic of leather my tother leather necessity is my Belle Bélier tassel necklaces. They help pull any outfit together and not to mention they’re really fun to pet while wearing.

POTTY TRAINING

Potty training is my least favorite part of parenting but once it’s the most amazing feeling in the world!  You save on average $70 a month once you’re child is potty trained.  So I am excited to tell you guys that Tank is finally potty trained! It has been a long journey and much different than the one we took with Colette but I want to share with you want worked for us!

Tank still doesn’t like sitting on the potty, he would rather “pee like daddy”

I decided to potty train Colette as soon as she turned two years old, because I knew she was ready. She started showing signs like hiding in a corner and telling me when she had a wet diaper.  Within a week of training she was totally potty trained.  So, when Wesley turned two, I decided to introduce potty training, which admittedly was a mistake because he wasn’t showing any interests or signs of being ready. Long story short, his two-year-old potty-training trail was a disaster.

Fast forward to a few months ago, Wesley’s teacher started hinting that she thought he was ready for potty training. He was waking up from his naps totally dry and he would say “oh no” when he wet his diaper.  So, I decided to start the process at home. Below are how I have found success with potty training for my kiddos.  *Full disclosure, I night trained my kids after they were fully potty trained for at least 6 months. Hence why I named this post Part 1. So he wears a pull up to bed and I have to be honest, he does hate sitting on the potty go number two. So we’re still struggling with that. BUT here is what we have found success with!

Here are my potty training tips and tricks that I stuck to:

  • Stay home for three-five days with no diapers on throughout the day (ideally a long weekend or winter break)
  • Let your child pick out “Big Boy or Girl” underpants to use after being introduce to the potty
  • Introduce a reward (candy) that the child can quickly earn when they sit or pee/poo on potty
  • Start a sticker chart as extra motivation/tracking
  • As soon as they wake up take their night diaper off and have them go potty
  • Take them to the bathroom every 50 minutes to “try”
  • Once you start don’t stop! Do your best not to go back to diapers.
  • Make pooping and peeing exciting and fun! We literally do a song and dance when a child goes potty!

As stated above as soon as he would wake up we started our routine.  Take the diaper off and I would start using the vocabulary “Oh you’re wet, let’s try and pee in the potty”.  I would take off his diaper and he would try and “pee like daddy” for at least 5 minutes. Then we went on our day.  As the day went on I put him on the on the potty every 50 minutes.  Yes that seems like a lot but in the beginning its necessary since they’re training those muscles and getting that mind body connection going.  After a few days he started telling me, peepee or poopoo, and we would run to the toilet!

His new favorite PJ Masks undies

Leaving the house is always scary because he doesn’t like to poop on the potty, but we’re working through that.  I always bring a change of clothes and a pull-up, wipes just in case.  We also always have Travel Johns on hand because he hates the public rest room. He’s scared of the loud automatic flushing, the loud air dryers and people coming in and out.  If we’re headed out then I have him try to go to the bathroom before we leave the house, and make sure I’m organized enough so that we’re not out of the house for hours.

Does he still have accidents, yes.  Is that normal, yes.  Sometimes it happens when he’s busy playing or he’s drank more water than normal.  But he is in big boy underwear and going potty like daddy! In six months, I will post about nighttime training so leave all your comments and questions below for me to answer.

First Day

Yesterday was a big day for mommy and Colette! It was the first day of first grade at her new school, as well as her first day taking the school bus to and from school. So we were both feel all the things. Excitement and uncertainties which lead to anxiety. So my creative side got a little idea. If I can’t be with her every second of the day, let’s make something that will keep us connected during those first day scaries.

First day scaries bracelets

Creating

I love making things and memories with my kiddos. So whenever there is a problem my gut tells me to make something (wether it is food, a craft, or jewelry). Since we have been through a lot of transitions in the past three months, I have notice Colette experiencing a little more anxiety than normal. So I want her to have healthy outlet when those feelings come to surface, and the healthiest outlet for me is creating.

Matching bracelets

I sat Colette down and explained to her that I cannot be with her physically when she is at school but sometime there are things that help you feel someone’s presence even when they’re not with you. We talk about different things that we could make so that she could feel connected with me while we were separated. She came up with the idea of making a bracelet! Perfect! So we grabbed her bead kit and she started making her bracelet.

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Mommy needs one too

While she was making hers I realized I was going to go through the same emotional rollercoaster that she was! So I started making one as well. Of course she as clued in and said in her sweet six year old voice “Mommy, are you making one too? So you can rub it when you miss me?” Which of course I replied, “Yes, it’ll help me be brave tomorrow when I miss you”. Because kids need to know their feelings are validated and they are not the only one with BIG feelings, we as parents just have more experience with dealing with them.

You can shop the bead kit we used here.